Drop language of sound, rein in fast can alleviate the mood is actuation, and bosom is forward and erect, with respect to the atmosphere with meeting desalt nervous impulse, because the humanness rage, person with intense dialect is of pectoral pitch normally, when body pitch, can make oneself face is close to the other side, able person of attitude of this kind of speech creates tight situation for the ground.
Shut a mouth to listen attentively to
Jin Sen of handkerchief of the politician with famous England, historian and the management with famous England learn a Lasituomuji, speak of in the one book of write in collaboration with: If “ produced brawl, be sure to keep in mind to avoid honour mouth. Listen to others first, let others say the word, should accomplish as far as possible modest and cordial, reasonable. Rely on brawl to win popular feeling hard absolutely, the method of get effect instantly is each other lay one's heart bare. ”
The characteristic that indignant mood produces depends on brief, after ” of “ gas head passes, contradict to be solved relatively easily.
The idea when others you cannot agree without giving serious thought, and when feeling oneself convince each other very hard again temporarily, shut a mouth to listen attentively to, can make the other side realizes, obedient person is interested in his viewpoint, the “ that pinned oneself not only so enrages head ” , be helpful for weakening the “ with escape the other side to enrage head ” at the same time.
Commutative part
Carnegie - the business of Mei Lun university teachs Robert - triumphant benefit, in California city some computer company encounters a programmer and his boss to produce conflict with respect to the value issue of certain software, the footing that triumphant benefit suggests they stand in the other side each other will argue, result after 5 minutes, double convenient recognize how each other expression is funny, everybody laughed, found out the way that settle very quickly.
In Cheng been communicate with the person in the person, psychological element is having main effect, people thinks he is right, the opinion that the other side must accept him just goes.
If both sides is when opinion communication, can exchange a part and be considerate ground thinks, can avoid both sides to burst into fury.
Rational sublimate
Teleplay " stepmother " in, see when young stepmother the child is intended embarrass with her and when the mischief, temporarily furious bear hard, fall broke glass.
But the disastrous effect that she realizes farther conflict immediately, thought of the liability that becomes mother and due reason, eliminated anger like that suddenly, sweep vitreous broken bits piece apologize actively to the child, reconciled to concern.
When conflict happening, a consequence estimates in the heart, consider oneself duty, oneself sublimate has to sensible, open-minded the person of bearing, with respect to the mental state that can control oneself certainly, alleviate nervous atmosphere.
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